My child is not a punishment

This has left me nearly lost for words.  A story has hit the Irish media this morning about a woman who was allowed speak graphically on abortion at Masses in Co. Cork.  (Irish Examiner story) I am pro-choice and do not adhere to any religious group or belief and have never made any bones about those facts.  I believe the issue of terminating a pregnancy for whatever reason is an extremely painful and personal one and that is why I am pro-choice but that is not why I am so angry and disgusted by this story.

What has left me sickened, disgusted and nearly lost for words is the comment  made that this woman considers her child with special needs to be a punishment from God.  As a mother of a child with special needs I consider this hugely offensive both to myself and my child.  By extension she is saying that all of us who have children with special needs are being punished.  You might consider that an over reaction but that is how this makes me feel.

The priest who permitted her to speak – at more than one Mass  – at least one of which was a children’s Mass  – did not seek permission from his bishop and seems not to have realised that her words would cause offence or distress.  Seriously how could he not have grasped that?  Even if he wasn’t aware before the first Mass of the content of what she was going to say, he certainly should not have allowed her to speak again.

This happened this week in Ireland.  In 2012.  Not 1912, not 1812, 2012.  




About museandchat

Busy woman, 45, feminist, married, one daughter, wannabe PhD, discovering new sides to myself all the time! Proud mum of a daughter with Dandy Walker Syndrome, community activist, passionate about history, love to read, write, cook, garden and craft.

Posted on October 11, 2012, in Parenting, Special Needs. Bookmark the permalink. 8 Comments.

  1. Shocking and depressing.

  2. very well said love your blog

  3. Why is a priest allowing anyone to speak about abortion at a children’s Mass, or any other function where a large proportion of those present are children?

  4. Whatever about the woman’s beliefs, which I do not ascribe to, the priest considers he MAY have made an error of judgement??? Pastoral care is part of his job, the only step forward is remove him from his post immediately.

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